Finding Peace, Comfort, and Joy During the Holidays — Even When It’s Hard
- Cheryl Harris
- Dec 17, 2025
- 4 min read
The holidays are often associated with joy, magic, and togetherness. But for many of us, they can also feel heavy, emotional, and different than we expected.
This year, the holidays have looked a little different for me, too. My son, my only child, moved to Arizona this past August. Thanksgiving was quieter without him, and familiar traditions like cutting down a Christmas tree together have changed. While I’m grateful he’ll be home for a few days at Christmas, I’ve had to sit with the reality that change is inevitable.
As they say, the only things we can truly count on are death, taxes, and change.
I’ve also been walking alongside many clients who are facing major transitions of their own, like moving into assisted living or memory care communities, often after years in the same home. These changes can be incredibly difficult, especially as we get older.
So today, I wanted to share some practical, real-life tools I personally use to get through the holidays when things feel challenging. My hope is that something here might help you, too.
Embracing Change (Even When It’s Uncomfortable)
Change can feel overwhelming, particularly when it disrupts routines, traditions, or a sense of control. Whether you’re adjusting to an empty nest, caregiving responsibilities, or helping a loved one transition into a new phase of life, finding ways to gently accept change can make a difference.
That doesn’t mean pretending everything is fine (though you might be tempted to do so...). But rather, finding small, grounding ways to support yourself through it.
Create Comfort at Home
When I find myself in the dumps, one of the simplest things I do is make my space feel cozy and comforting.
That might look like:
Lighting candles
Putting on music that fits my mood
Curling up with a good book
Or even turning on music that makes me want to dance around the house
It may sound corny, but moving your body, even just dancing in your living room, can shift your energy in really positive ways.
Move Your Body & Get Outside
Movement is incredibly important for me. Exercise isn't necessarily a gym membership or an intense workout. Sometimes it’s just getting your body moving.
I recently got a puppy with a lot of energy, which means I’m outside far more in the winter than I used to be. We go to the dog park almost every day. Yes, even when it’s snowing or sleeting.
Bundling up and getting fresh air has made a noticeable difference in my mood and outlook, especially during Michigan winters when it’s easy to stay indoors too much.
Write It Out: The Power of Journaling
I also started journaling recently, and I can’t recommend it enough. Writing your thoughts down, especially when you’re feeling sad, lonely, or overwhelmed, can be incredibly therapeutic.
Sometimes, the simple act of getting those thoughts out of your head and onto paper helps release them. There’s no right or wrong way to journal. It’s simply a space for honesty.
Meditation, Prayer, and Quiet Reflection
I personally meditate daily, though I know it’s not for everyone. I like to think of meditation as another form of prayer. If you’re religious or spiritual, quiet reflection or prayer may provide similar comfort and grounding.
Presence is the goal, not perfection.
Find Small Joys in the Community
If you’re trying to reconnect with the holiday spirit, look around your local community. In Kalamazoo, there are many free holiday concerts and events this time of year.
Assisted living and memory care communities often host beautifully decorated holiday events, many of which are open to the public. These gatherings can be a lovely way to enjoy the season—and if you have a loved one who may be considering a move in the future, attending an event can be a gentle, low-pressure introduction to a community setting.
Support for Caregivers: You Deserve a Break
If you’re a caregiver, it’s especially important to protect time for yourself. In Southwest Michigan, there are wonderful adult day programs such as:
These programs can provide meaningful engagement for your loved one while giving you a few hours to rest, recharge, or simply breathe.
The Portage Senior Center is another incredible resource, offering activities like cards, exercise classes, crafting, book clubs, and more. If transportation is a concern, Metro Connect can help with rides.
Wishing You Peace This Season
The holidays don’t have to be perfect to be meaningful. If this season feels different, heavy, or bittersweet, you are not alone.
My hope for you is that you’re able to:
Find moments of peace
Grab small pockets of joy
Be gentle with yourself
I’m wishing you love, light, and peace this holiday season. And if you need support—for yourself or a loved one—I’m always here to help. Call or text (269) 207-1720, or email me here.
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